There is something seriously wrong with the San Mateo County Courts altogether.  I'm in the middle of a custody dispute for my older son... and I actually had a San Mateo County Court Commissioner tell me:  Because I was a ward of the court as a minor, and in foster care, that my son's father could provide a more stable and loving family environment that I could... even though he has a felony drug conviction in his past, didn't even come into his kid's life until our son was almost 2 years old... and in the first 7 years that our son lived with me, his father paid an exact total of $1310 for child support after lying about his income!  He doesn't even have medical or dental insurance.  I think we should be preparing, educating and encouraging our children to pursue careers in politics, law, and social services.  This way, when they are parents themselves, they will not be punished for what we may have done in our youth in order to simply survive.  Know what I mean?